How to Take the Plunge & Do What You Love

Monday, January 27, 2014

Follow your dreams and the money will come? (Shutterstock)

Last week, we discussed this piece of common advice given to young people: "Do what you love." It sounds very simple: Follow your passion, and the money will follow. But is that always the case?

"The popular mythology certainly is that anyone can do what they love," said our guest Miya Tokumitsu. "The reality remains that the people who get to do what they love are mostly those with the financial capital to acquire the credentials required by many of these prestigious and personally rewarding jobs."

Tokumitso added that this mentality fosters a culture of blame if a person isn't doing what they love.

"There are so many people right now, especially in this tough job market, who are doing work that they never planned on doing—and certainly never dreamed of doing—but they're doing what they need to do to get by," she said. "That is just as valuable as any work could possibly be."

Our conversation about following your dreams sparked a lot of discussion. To explore this issue in greater depth, The Takeaway hears from Jey Born and his wife Betsy Thorleifson. Together they discuss how they are making a team effort as a couple to do what they love.


Jey Born and Betsy Thorleifson

Produced by:

Mythili Rao


T.J. Raphael

Comments [3]

tom LI

The do what you love, etc, myth is sourced from the Boomers generation and a whole host of their lies. Usually quoted by people who 1. had the resources to get way ahead of others in the job market. (rich family, and a set path to Ivy league schools for example) 2. fell into something you actually do really well (sales, etc) and then land a great position that reaps great income.

Its an epic lie that doesnt address that most job seekers (especially recent grads) are clueless as to what that THING might be, or how to narrow down all their Love-THINGS to one or two viable paths to pursue.

Example; In grade/high school the student was good at math, kinda liked it - so she was coaxed/coached to pursue a math focused major in college - then got a job with a major financial or accounting firm. Only to find the work is mind-numbing and not at all inspiring, or provides a sense of actually doing an important job. There were no more medals for her high scores, no more displays on the school bulletin boards, no more pats on the back for winning another interscholastic competition, etc, etc...instead it was a poorly lit space in a dirty cubicle farm, where no one notices if she's there or not, and after lunch her desk is re-piled high with more "important, gotta get done today" work from supervisors she rarely interacts with...

And so it goes with most people. What was once something they enjoyed as students is soon denuded of all joy by the reality of work in the modern world! Regular work has not ever been about fulfilling the needs of the employee - except for a paycheck, and historically recently benefits.

Dont do/work what you love, but try and find what YOU can tolerate, could grow to like (Where the jobs are!) and pursue the love stuff on your own time! And don't make that the only escape hatch...especially if You cant get that Great American Novel, etc out of first gear..!

Jan. 29 2014 04:45 PM
Larry Fisher from Brooklyn, N.Y.

1.Get a calender and put an x on it when you do something that is part of your dream.

2. Try to form a chain with x's on the following day and the days after that. It can be as short as 15 minutes a day towards what your dream is.

3.If you can go 365 days with x's on it every day, then aren't you living your dream?
And even if only half those days have x's through them, you could be said to be "napping" your dream.

Jan. 27 2014 12:16 PM
Sam Winston from Detroit, Michigan

ah, sweet desire.

desire is the cause of all suffering. you cannot choose to not desire, for then you are desiring to not desire. find whatever contentment in life you can. musicians, stop trying to make a living playing shows and invest in a home studio for 5grand and spend your free time writing and honing your craft. then play shows for fun.

actors and film makers, go get a freakin gopro or something and fancy computer and use your free time to make something that will blow people away. that movie the battery was a zombie movie made for 6k and it looked fairly professional.

fashion designs, go to the fabric store and make an outfit, if you can't sell it, wear it.

any creative celebrity ideal you're after is cheaply affordable now and the best part is you get to maintain your privacy.

not suggesting you suffer thru a job you hate, but why rush? we're coming out of a recession, it might kick back in, find a bit of security and keep your eyes open. it's not really courage that you need, it's not money, it's simply the act of doing it already. as nike would say, "just do it". don't give up everything for a dream, ease into. let it merge with your current life. work with the system we're locked into until you all finally get mad enough to help stop the domestication of our creative inner selves. there's a million ways to get things done...

Jan. 27 2014 09:49 AM

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