How Does it Get Better?

Monday, October 11, 2010 - 10:09 AM

A few weeks ago, Dan Savage started a video project where gays around the country tell gay kids that life gets better when you get older. We'll talk to Dan tomorrow, but we're looking for your stories now. What would you tell kids — gay or straight — gets better when you're an adult? What did you struggle with that you'd like to tell kids will be okay?

Savage launched a channel on YouTube to where people submit videos to tell kids how it gets better.

Here's what he wrote when he started the project:

Gay adults aren't allowed to talk to these kids. Schools and churches don't bring us in to talk to teenagers who are being bullied. Many of these kids have homophobic parents who believe that they can prevent their gay children from growing up to be gay—or from ever coming out—by depriving them of information, resources, and positive role models. Why are we waiting for permission to talk to these kids? We have the ability to talk directly to them right now. We don't have to wait for permission to let them know that it gets better. We can reach these kids.

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Comments [13]

jt from North Carolina

Respect who you are and don't go the route of a permanent solution to an impermanent problem. Prove all the hate mongers wrong by having a full and loving life. I have and it's the best feeling I could have ever hoped for. It does get better... I promise.

Oct. 22 2010 07:22 PM
Michael from Portland, Maine

Just take each day as it comes, respect yourself and know that you are not alone. It does get better, at least it seems so, and that's what's important.

Millions of young gay men and women have gone before you and millions will come after you. So, trust and allow yourself to grow.

Oct. 14 2010 03:22 PM
Diana from Oregone

Learning to laugh a lot more, i.e., breaking the habit of letting push-your-button matters spoil relations. Aging brings physical problems that help you set priorities, enjoy life more.

Oct. 14 2010 03:17 PM
Eileen Ryan from Olympia, WA

Confrontation gets easier.
It's less scary. The ground you're standing on isn't as shaky. You are better able to pick your battles.
Honestly; it gets easier.

Oct. 11 2010 05:54 PM
Steven from Facebook

Their understanding of just how resilient they really are.

Oct. 11 2010 02:23 PM
By text from Salt Lake City, UT

Zits

Oct. 11 2010 02:22 PM
By text from Salt Lake City, UT

Knowledge of what is in the bible and obeying it gets easier to understand as you get older.

Oct. 11 2010 02:21 PM
Tamara (by text) from Baltimore, MD

Perspective

Oct. 11 2010 02:21 PM
By text from Denver, CO

wisdom

Oct. 11 2010 02:21 PM
By text from Detroit, MI

Everything. Understanding how to get where you want to be.

Oct. 11 2010 11:50 AM
Duncangela from Columbia, SC

Self image, confidence and the ability to not give a sh*t about what others think of you.

Oct. 11 2010 11:50 AM
By text from MI

Being a nerd. I didn’t have many friends until I got to college.

Oct. 11 2010 11:49 AM
By text from Bayside, NY

Insecurity, doubtfulness, and the need to fit in. You'll reach a point in your young adult life at which you'll realize that you don't really care what most people think about you. At that point it will only be the concerns of those who love you most, and those you love most that will matter to you.

Oct. 11 2010 11:49 AM

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