Love, Sex, and Governor Sanford

Thursday, July 02, 2009

South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford's admissions about his private life have raised as many questions as they have eyebrows. If nothing else, the governor has sparked a conversation about sex in America. The Takeaway talks to Audacia Ray, a professor of sexuality at Rutgers University and author of Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration . We're also joined by Debby Herbenick a research scientist at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University. Debby is the author of the forthcoming book, “Because Its Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.”


Debby Herbenick and Audacia Ray


Noel King

Comments [3]

Anita Wagner

As a polyamory advocate I am intrigued that (if he is being truthful) Sanford developed an emotionally intimate friendship with Ms. Chapur before he fell in love and it became sexual. The Baltimore Sun published an article in which the author, a therapist, was emphatic that opposite sex friendships aren't OK for married people. At the time I was outraged, but clear, direct communication about such matters is important. Polyamorists MUST openly communicate in order to make their relationships work. Monogamy encourages avoidance of such discussions, because people marry thinking that everyone already knows the rules.

Once Sanford bonded emotionally with Chapur, avoiding expressing those feelings sexually likely became much more difficult - it's the way humans are wired. Does that mean he should never have become friends with her? I'll leave that decision up to those who find themselves in that situation. It is their marriage, not mine, that is at stake.

Jul. 02 2009 12:58 PM


Jul. 02 2009 09:28 AM

I think something went wrong here...Instead of an interview with Audacia Ray, there's an interview about Afghanistan. Although interesting, I'm also curious about Love, Sex & Governor Sanford.


Jul. 02 2009 09:19 AM

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