Technology's Changing Role Within Courtship & Weddings

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Sometimes in our digital age, it can feel like very few big moments in life are left unrecorded, whether by email, text or tweet.

But how does all of this new technology fit into events that are considered to be inherently traditional. How, for example, does it work in a wedding?

WNYC’s New Tech City producer Dan Tucker recently went to a wedding and heard emails of the bride and groom's courtship being read.

While this kind of public sharing works for some people, it doesn't work for everyone.

Joining us to weigh in on how wedding traditions are changing in the digital age is Anna Post, author and etiquette expert, and the great-great-granddaughter of the Queen of Etiquette—Emily Post.


Anna Post

Produced by:

Ellen Frankman


T.J. Raphael

Comments [3]

Carolyn from Fort Lauderdale

Ironically, a few hours after my first post, I learned about the death of a family friend that has been in my life since birth. In this case, I was able to immediately inform my mother, who, would have heard about it in a day or two, but was now the first in a large community to know. So, I'm of two minds. I think if it is someone close to you, it is more comforting to hear directly from the family. Imagine what it is like to hear about horrible crimes on the news, only to find out you are related or know the person. That is the kind of sentiment I'm struck with in these cases.

Aug. 15 2013 09:11 AM
Anita E from Seattle, WA

I met my husband on AOL and we just celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary. I was new to Seattle and didn't know anyone, plus I'm not one to hang in bars. If it wasn't for AOL, we would have never met.

Aug. 14 2013 05:01 PM
Carolyn from Fort Lauderdale

Eleven days ago I saw that my cousins were on their way to my Aunt's side on Facebook. Less than 2 days later, she was gone, also learned on Facebook. In the interim, I had contact with 2 cousins, but, I never would have reached out if I hadn't seen the original post. I was dismayed to learn about this on Facebook. Yes, technology kept me current, but coming from a more intimate relationship with everyone involved, the whole experience left a bad taste in my mouth. Particularly, I did not like that one cousin "liked" my obviously fraught tone in a plea for more knowledge via private messaging and never responded. Another cousin did private message me to tell me she would call when everything had settled down, which was fine and understandable to me.

Aug. 14 2013 10:13 AM

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