Gender, Sex, and Consent on the College Campus

Thursday, January 10, 2013

The college party: It’s an American cultural institution captured in films, immortalized in song, and maybe even held in our most cherished memories. But is it also a place where communication and consent are practiced respectfully between the sexes?

Throughout the week, we’ve been looking at gender roles, sex, consent and rape from a variety of angles. We’ve talked with a sixteen-year-old girl about online slut-shaming. We’ve talked about sex trafficking. We’ve talked about the messages that young women receive from their parents and cultures.

And today, two young men, both students at the University of Texas at Austin, share their thoughts and experiences with parties, online interactions, and the unwritten rules of conduct between the sexes on campus.

Joshua Tang is a 22-year-old senior, majoring in government and history. And Lee Lueder is a 19-year-old freshman, majoring in business.

Guests:

Lee Lueder and Joshua Tang

Produced by:

Kristen Meinzer

Comments [9]

clive betters

re "why doesn't this conversation have women". perhaps this conversation is focussed on men. why does that have to mean that women are not welcomed? there are a lot of things that men don't talk about enough,and there is benefit to men just talking with other men. it's not just about an "old boys club" thing. why does there have be this knee-jerk gender leveling all the time. i'm for correcting wrongs,but let's also not be so ridgid and insane,around a bloody conversation for gods sake.

Jan. 15 2013 07:49 AM
jtang from Austin, Texas

J from NYC,

Naomi Wolf reported that India's rape conviction rate is higher than the United States in an article entitled "Ending India' Rape Culture." The article was published by Project-Syndicate and can be found here: http://www.project-syndicate.org/commentary/ending-india-s-rape-culture-by-naomi-wolf

Jan. 12 2013 09:13 PM
j from NYC

I'd like to know where the statistic cited by Mr. Tang--that India has a higher rate of convicting accused rapists than the U.S.--comes from. Thanks.

Jan. 11 2013 09:45 AM
Iris from Dallas, TX

“NO-means-NO” and it does not matter if the individual is male or female. When alcohol is involved it can be very hard to be on the defense against a sexual assault or violence. Therefore, most sexual assault and violence is never reported due to SHAME. Wow!

Jan. 10 2013 06:56 PM
Larry Dell from Maplewood, NJ

John,

I want to suggest you make the link between men who force themselves on women and the laws in many states that restrict access to information about birth parents by children who result from those encounters.
Currently in most states adoptees are restricted by law from getting information about their original parents. Many people have suggested these laws were enacted to protect the men, in many cases religious leaders, who forced themselves on women. It's a topic worth reporting about.

Jan. 10 2013 04:07 PM
PAF from austin, tx

I worked as a cook in a frat house in the mid 80's and I can tell you that 'Animal House' barely covers it. I saw hazing, sexual misconduct of all kinds and I personally witnessed scenes that would have made Caligula blush. After one particular party where partner swapping was rampant, a epidemic of the clap spread thru the frat house like wildfire. I saw and heard exactly how those young men felt about women and I was appalled. In that world, no did not mean no. It meant 'have another drink' until the answer is unintelligible because the girl was no longer able to give consent. And these pampered princes grow up to be our political leaders. I still have a polaroid of naked boys with longnecks and bongs celebrating Xmas. Are we going to change this kind of behavior? I doubt it.

Jan. 10 2013 01:29 PM
Jason from Dallas

When I was in college back in the 90s, Frat Boys were for the most part, total douchebags. They had little respect for women; I know half a dozen girls that were harassed and nearly raped by these collegiate cretins. I see them as nothing more than the educational extension of "Bro" culture and douchebaggery at large. Greeks (not the nationality) are the epitome of cheese and bad taste.

Jan. 10 2013 01:03 PM
listener

Were Occupy activists intensely questioned about reported assaults and other crimes at Occupy encampments?

Jan. 10 2013 10:04 AM
rebecca

Why doesn't this conversation include any women? Yes, I understand you have talked to women in other parts of this series, as you make sure to outline in your intro, but that doesn't make up for this segment being 3 men speculating about rape. The segment focused on questions about whether or not college parties are impacted by a large rape culture, and when people might be in danger at parties. You really think only men have an interesting perspective on that?

Jan. 10 2013 10:03 AM

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