Is Technology Making Our Children Narcissists?

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Does technology hurt a child’s character development? Sheri Noga, a psychotherapist, believes there are potentially negative sides. As she sees it, today’s technology amplifies the mindset of immediate gratification; and that can be bad for children, parents and the world.

Sheri is the author of “Have the Guts to Do it Right: Raising Grateful and Responsible Children in an Era of Indulgence.


Sheri Noga

Produced by:

Kristen Meinzer

Comments [14]

Ariadne from NYC

Anna, I hold an undergraduate and graduate degree.

Jun. 01 2012 09:03 AM
anna from new york

Ariadne, I don't know what your circumstances were, but I have a feeling that you would benefit from some basic education. You don't know how bad your style is. Cliches, platitudes, aggression. Try to find time to think.

May. 31 2012 11:08 AM
anna from new york

"Anna, love, you're the only one going on here about zombies."
Yes, Ariadne, yes. And this tragic. The rest is ... well ... zombies. Continue marching.
dr anna

May. 31 2012 09:16 AM
Ariadne from NYC

Anna, love, you're the only one going on here about zombies - not much in the way of "we." And we get your point by now.

May. 31 2012 08:05 AM
anna from new york

Well, Ariadne, we disagree. Continue marching.

May. 30 2012 03:03 PM
Ariadne from NYC

You're preaching about zombies in the wrong place, Anna:

May. 30 2012 12:12 PM
anna from new york

"Have dinner together as much as possible, and be a good role model yourself, go to work everyday, give back to your community through volunteering"
Yes, zombie training should start in pre-natal care. And yes, a child/teenager shouldn't be left alone for a second or... when she/he grows up she/he start thinking and asking questions regarding for example the sense of this "volunteering" nonsense. Shouldn't a country of NO WAR on it soil for some 150 years have at least a slightly civilized, functioning society which doesn't rely on slave (volunteered of not) labor?

May. 30 2012 11:00 AM
anna from new york

"As teens they should have the expectation that they will have a summer job"
Why Sarah, why? Just to prevent "unstructured thinking?"
What if one reads a book which is not on the list? And develops a habit of independent thinking during days and weeks of unstructured life? Is this what you trying to prevent? A rhetorical question.

May. 30 2012 10:46 AM
Angel from Miami, FL

If you let technology babysit your kid, don't be surprised when you get little rampaging robots.

I've seen it done. They go on trips and jack their kids into entertainment systems. They buy them game consoles and are happy knowing having their kids are in their cells and "out of trouble". It keeps the house cleaning, some say.

Kids should be outside, playing in the mud, 'til the sun sets. Give them bicycles instead of gameboys. Build them a treehouse. Don't give them a TV for their bedroom. TVs shouldn't be in any bedroom. Nothing calms a hyperactive kid more than a few hours in the yard, everyday after school.

That "I want to give my kids what I never had" motto parents preach has always meant college and clothing and security and love. I don't think it means embedding kids with electronic Pavlovian triggers for a lifetime.

May. 30 2012 10:07 AM
Sarah Kacprowicz from Greater Boston

"Children of consequence" result from engaged parenting-as young children limit TV and video game exposure, open the back door and let them have unstructured playtime, visit the library, local museums and engage with family elders. As teens they should have the expectation that they will have a summer job, if they start a sport or activity at school-they will follow through with the commitment. Have dinner together as much as possible, and be a good role model yourself, go to work everyday, give back to your community through volunteering. Children learn what they live.

May. 30 2012 09:40 AM
anna from new york

Now, my "famous" poem, originally dedicated to Columbia's students, now rededicated to Ms. Noga
Marching zombies, marching zombies, marching zombies march
Marching zombies, marching zombies, marching zombies march
They don't dream, they don't think
They march, they march, they march
Marching zombies march

May. 30 2012 08:14 AM
anna from new york

In other countries, individuals are allowed to spend times studying, THINKING etc. before they join the workplace. Thinking is of course is prohibited in the land of "trickle of down" idiocy.

May. 30 2012 08:10 AM
anna from new york

Yes, dear Ms. Noga, training of zombies should start from prenatal care. And yes, everyone (toddlers and frail elderly etc.) should work, work, work, nonstop, without an hour of rest to achieve the greatest goal of all - enrichment of some tiny percentage of criminals to absolutely insane level and resulting absolute, irreversable enslavement of the rest. Does anyone has doubts about the role of psychobabbling and psychobabblers in the enslavement of this population?

May. 30 2012 08:01 AM
Ariadne from NYC

Entirely agree with you, Sheri. I've been working since I was 16 and now at the age of 32 have been able to weather a recession (including two layoffs) in a declining industry because of the work ethic I learned early on (which was self-driven, not instilled by my parents). Having to pay for college myself also underscored the importance of work very early in my life.

May. 30 2012 07:57 AM

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