The Challenges of Blending a Family in a Second Marriage

Monday, February 22, 2010

Takeaway co-host Celeste Headlee will be getting married this summer and, in the process, she'll be taking on the role of stepmother, as her husband-to-be brings a new son into the household. At the same time, her son will get a new stepfather. She's not alone: 65 percent of remarriages involve children from a previous marriage, so we look at the challenges of blended families.

Lamar Tyler, co-creator of the award-winning blog blackandmarriedwithkids.com, has been a dad and stepdad in a blended family for five years. He shares his stories and advice for keeping the lines of communication open and the marriage strong.

And Joy Berry weighs in with tips for helping kids to adjust to their new family configuration. Berry is a child development expert and bestselling author of more than 250 books that teach children about life and responsibility.

Guests:

Joy Berry and Lamar Tyler

Hosted by:

Todd Zwillich

Produced by:

Kristen Meinzer

Comments [3]

Robert from Detroit

The couples don't become married until they have dated. The issue is- do parents see beyond their personal desires and make decisions based on what are in the best interest of their children, even if that means personal sacrifice. Celeste gave the stat that 60% of these "Brady Bunch" style families ultimately end in divorce. That is is strike two for the children. First their parents/family, then their step parents/family, that doesn't sound like decisions made in the children's interest...

Feb. 22 2010 10:38 AM

Robert, the discussion was specifically about married couples, rather than just couples who date. Thanks for your comment!
-Jim (web editor)

Feb. 22 2010 09:44 AM
Robert from Detroit

I can't speak to every situation but in those circumstances where both parents actively participate in their child's rearing but are no longer together, I think it is very selfish for the parents to expose their children to the people who they date. This is a personal choice made only by and only for the adults. To force the choices of the adults down the throats of children who are most likely already troubled by the fact that their parents aren't together just makes a bad sitaution worse. When you bring children into the world you have the responsibility to make decisions that are predicated on the long-term best interest of the child, not the adult(s). We are creating a generation of kids who do not know or understand the concept of parental selflessness or real, long-term commitment.

Feb. 22 2010 09:13 AM

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