If a daughter's perspective is at all helpful to this conversation, my mother had me at age 39, and growing up I resented this. She went through menopause as I went through puberty, and our relationship was quite rocky. I also envied my friends who had "young, hip" parents and considered mine old-fashioned and out of touch. But as an adult, I respect that my mother had more life experience behind her to really guide me through the parts of my life that required her guidance, and I believe that motherhood has everything to do with if and when a woman is emotionally and financially capable of rearing a child.
The lack of of economic and cultural support for mothers and fathers in our society for me is heartbreaking.
But I believe it is important to emphasize that not every woman wants to be a mother. I can try to be a productive member of our society by being good mentor, neighbor and friend without bearing a child. I am not incomplete, nor am I selfish. I am an individual who is making the best choice for my life.
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